The law of demand
states that: "the higher the demand of a commodity, the greater its
price". In other words, a goods is accorded more significance when its
demand rises. We unknowingly apply this law in our daily transaction; even
managers and coaches of football clubs are well aware of this law. What then is
the law of romance? Strictly speaking, romance has not one law in particular
but the law of demand is applicable. How? The more a husband loves his wife,
the more significance and respect he would accord to her. The more he wants
her, the greater his love for her to an extent where she becomes a priceless
jewel. In Africa, Nigeria to be particular, the story is a bit different…
It is the joy of
every woman to get married someday. Equally, the joy of a man knows no bounds
when he sees his bride walking down the aisle smiling and dazzling like the
morning sun. But does this joy end after their first night? Honeymoon is
gradually fading out as a tradition in a country where everyone is thinking of
how to get money. There's really no time for romance, picnic, dinner, or bit of
relaxation. The most common form of relaxation is the precious five hours sleep
we are able to catch before jumping behind the wheels. There's something called
'opportunity cost' in economics. In a layman's words, it is simply that which
one sacrifices in order to enjoy something else. It's the fish you sacrifice to
buy meat; the gala you sacrifice to get plantain chips; the relaxation you
sacrifice to make ends meet and the romance you sacrifice to make more money.
I recently
propounded a law which states that: "the greater the number of children,
the lesser the aura of romance". As every other law, it certainly has its
exceptions but, that's not our point of focus. Take a look at a typical
Nigerian family of five (with three children). Do you see the husband wrapping
his hands around his wife's waist? "No, she has grown fat. Moreover, we'll
corrupt the kids". Is the man giving his wife a peck in front of the kids?
"At all, such things should be done in private." "Your children
are old enough to get married, shouldn't you be laying an example for them in
terms of romance?" "What do
you mean by that? Ehn? Our parents never did such immoral things in front of
us. We are too old for such frivolities. They'll learn from the stories we tell
them about ourselves" Stories which would sound like moonlight tales?
These are not
common among all couples but majority are guilty. Our culture and tradition
certainly play a role in our actions but, nothing stops us from making our
children know we truly love them and their mother and we wouldn't hesitate to
spare the rod if they misbehave. Although we all have different ways of
expressing love yet, most of the time, the so-called 'expression' remains in
our imaginations and people are yet to see it.
A halt to the
insurrection up north wouldn't give us the peace we desire. Raising children in
a home flowing with love and discipline would create a better future for us.
" Is money more important that marital
bliss? Would you go on a picnic with your family or go to the office to sign a
contract?"
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